Do maintain, decide feast, decorate bridal chamber... the day that awaits wedding every minutes of every second is happy sweetness! Just face the life with completely different future, are you ready really?
Case: The future that plans hard, make me terrified and disturbed
I am an everything must in perfect order person, e.g. weekday in the evening must next week everyday program has been arranged; Before travel 3 months are about to engineer the detail problem of this journey, the its arrange each respect is appropriate; The rubbish bag in the home must be covered shipshapely go up in paper basket, take out to go to the lavatory every time. Prepare even which years to change a big house even, go which years what kind of school assiduously studies a graduate student, suit which years to marry, be come out by my early plan.
The program was full of everywhere in my life, as a whole the thing of such. What may actual condition can not arrange like me is accurate in that way, still feel more dependable in the heart nevertheless. Once next content is good without arrangement, with respect to meeting angst, uneasiness, be utterly confused.
Appear recently this kind of feeling is even more serious, a bagatelle did not get ready, can feel future did not have a hope even! The friend beside says me sex of this kind of consecution close to at morbid state, in myself heart very clear, I already very exercised restraint hard, always cannot avoid the fluster that this kind of morbid state brings to me and angst however, especially the closest period of time, the worry that faces love lets me feel this kind of angst is more serious, every night I insomnious, body and mind suffers torment.
The boy friend is older than me 20 years old, it is American. I suspect friendship between generations all the time before, be attracted deeply by him however now. But he wants recall United States to work immediately, should manage here the thing of the company goes next year with respect to preparation now the United States and he marries. Tell from emotive angle, I like him very much, be willing to marry with him, but from a lot of otherer respect, I do not know such doing is right choice. If I marry him, can you regret later? I ability is 23 years old, marry can too early? Went to the United States, how should I live? Apply for a job, still do full-time wife? Manage different land personally, without any kin friends, how to suffer grievance to do? Can he take care of my one's whole life really? I am completely unthinkable that meeting is what appearance, the life that plans previously also all was thrown into confusion, did not have step-by-step rhythm, how should I live? I have one to plant ineffable panic-stricken. Entered an inky environment as going, what can knowing one pace is stridden be, want to be afraid of more more, cannot move.
But I also cannot leave her really now, he is the person that my only likes truly certainly. Although he compares a bank in ocean, we hold to everyday chat on the net say good morning good night. I am absent, he does not meet other woman absolutely. He has said a lot of a solemn pledge of love, I believed easily, but it is too good that my friend says I am too babyish cheated. I always am now ceaselessly self-condemned, face unpredictable future, not differentiate force is mixed 1:0 ability of urgent meet an emergency, if I can resemble other girl same, work decisive, reaction is alert and resourceful this are much better ah, I hate myself really! Think of our future, the all the time is not holding to with abandon between anguish is wandering...
-- terrified and disturbed graceful
Dispel misgivings: Enter marriage, you are ready? Dear, be life to order calm size to plan is not clammy, want to fasten excessive angst only, this is kind of dependable good convention actually; Matter to oneself marital important matter especially, the likelihood should carry Jing Yuan on the back to go to the seas and oceans from countryside, can you try to plan again carelessly how?
Above all, must want to remind you -- marrying is two people even two family ties is affined important matter, ought not to ask by him absolutely you " processing is over the thing of the company goes next year with respect to preparation now the United States and he marries " , such manner, too do not respect you and your family, besides too cursory besides, whether to also have some " old man creed " cause trouble? Do not know him to had communicated relevant details adequately with you? Of course you foretell impossibly also " if I marry him, can you regret later? " the following thing, it is a variety of change that produce after two people get along completely, consider marriage not happy, also be to be based on two people relation to manage not to be pooh-poohed, can you regret to marry him conversely how again? When in your consideration this great life is chosen, ask you be sure to the following 3 problems, arrange most devoted to inner feeling:
One, you did each other suit to marry?
He is bigger than you 20 years old, have the marital relation that has not handle or affection dispute? Have children? And are you also willing? If be only a pair pure love each other the men and women that be in love, the circumstance is gotten simply much, need to consider to wish to not be willing only terminative each other single life. Of course also one send a statement, think decision marriage must rely on some of impulse, otherwise apprehension is too much can hesitate to move forward; But the most mature practice, still need to consider instantly the state such as each other health, economy, family, job, if the other side makes a person a little not dare the abuse of ask advice (for example the) such as drug taking, gamble, excessive drinking, violate the law and commit crimes, cannot let love give absolutely developed a head.
2, is he the target that you miss to marry?
If hold in the arms,holding want others " take care of my one's whole life " this kind of idea, be afraid all one's life the target that also cannot find ideal. Since resolved should marry, also get preparative one's whole life to give aid to each other of course! And this person that will become your partner, do you understand him quite? Did he spend idea to understand you as much? Does he grow to from what kind of family reach setting? His individual character how? Have why hobby? Is he can you bear the person of the setback? Does he wish to not be willing to be the same as your hardships and difficulties and in all? View of his viewpoint of value, society, international view and you roughly conform to? Does your family accept him? Does his family like you? These will affect the factor of your life quality in the future, must clear up ability travel beforehand. Occasionally time of journey that gets along thick and fast, will promotional each other understanding; Or of period of time live together, try marriage, also can disclose hidden problem.
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